4 signs you need to change your mindset

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Christmas just finished, and we are headed into the new year. Everyone’s spirits are bright not only because of the holiday cheer but because we can finally kick 2020 to the curb.

But I am curious. How is your mindset underneath the Holiday cheer? Because once that toll rings in the new year, are you going to revert to a Debbie downer? 

You may not realize this, but your mindset can make or break your business. So you can have a bomb offer, a great sales page, and a huge audience. But if your energy isn’t there or your mindset is off. You will fail. 

So this episode is going to be short and sweet. I’m going to tell you the four signs that it’s time to adjust your mindset so that you can keep selling out your amazing offers.

Mindset Is Huge

Mindset is becoming a huge buzzword in the industry right now, almost to the point where it induces eye rolls.

But it’s still a huge factor when it comes to the success of your business. I mean, ultimately, your perception of the world affects your happiness, and your happiness affects your ability to create and sell. 

So many entrepreneurs ignore mindset and chase strategies and templates. Don’t get me wrong; sometimes, you need a new plan.

But often, what you really need is a perspective shift. But how can you tell?

You’re so close to it. 

So here are four signs that it’s time for you to change your mindset.

You Focus on Everything Wrong

A sure indication that you need to shift your mindset is when you continuously focus on your life’s disappointments and worry. 

Do you look at the results of your launch and get angry or sad? Or do you look at the results and figure out how to optimize for next time?

To change this mindset, you need to take some time to think about the things you are thankful for in your life. Become grateful for everything in your life. From your morning coffee to the internet troll saying he doesn’t appreciate your emails. 

When you give love and gratitude to every aspect of your life, you energetically attract more things to be grateful for. Not to mention your RAS or reticular activating system will intentionally start seeking out things to be thankful for. 

Making this shift will help to keep the negative thoughts from overwhelming your perspective.

You Refuse to Accept the Truth

Complaining all the time about reality won’t change anything. Always complaining about your life is your refusal to acknowledge and accept the truth. Once you accept things as they are, you can start working on how to solve the problems. Back to the RAS again when you focus on issues you will find them. But if you focus on solutions, you will find those instead.

You Become Angry When Your Expectations Aren’t Met

A large part of your mindset consists of your expectations. These are what you believe to be possible and necessary. If you are always angry with the people in your life because they aren’t meeting your expectations, it means that you have unrealistic expectations to start with.

Our expectations lay the groundwork for our experiences.  You will never be satisfied with your life if you have unrealistic expectations for yourself and those around you.

Try balancing your expectations between bare minimums and what you would like to happen. But still, leave room for what would be fantastic if it happened. 

When you start thinking about your expectations like this, you have more of a spectrum than a bullseye. You allow yourself and others to grow while also being more flexible.

Always Seeing Yourself as the Victim

When you always see yourself as the victim, you hinder your ability to change things and create a better life for yourself. A victim mentality is typically a by-product of low self-esteem. If you want to change your mindset, you have to reject the victim role and start building something better for your life. 

Don’t get me wrong, as a woman of color, I understand what it’s like to be a victim. However, it’s my experience that when I wallow in the identity of being a victim, everything becomes an attack. 

I’m always miserable, no one gets the benefit of the doubt, and I’m always ready to attack or protect myself. 

You can imagine that is a draining way to live your life. 

Making the shift out of being the victim, especially when it is warranted, is one of the most challenging things I could ask for you to do. 

But I promise you it’s powerful, and life on the other side of it is worth it.


Changing your mindset isn’t always easy, but it is one of the most powerful things that you can do for yourself.

When you learn to recognize the signs of a negative mindset, you can correct and set you and your business up for success. 

You are on the right path to shift your mindset and stop negatively affecting your sales when you start recognizing these four signs:

  1. You focus on everything wrong
  2. You refuse to accept the truth
  3.  You become angry when your expectations aren’t met
  4.  You always see yourself as the victim

After all, recognition is the first step towards change. 


  • You focus on everything wrong [03:53]
  • You refuse to accept the truth [04:39]
  • You become angry when your expectations aren’t met [05:01]
  • You always see yourself as the victim [05:49]

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